This week I lost a dear friend to cancer. I had known her for many years, but for two of those years we did not speak. Why not? For a silly reason and a silly misunderstanding. We reconnected when I found myself seated in a restaurant booth next to her and her family. She did not see me, but I recognized her voice immediately. I felt joy in my heart when I heard her. I called over the waiter and asked him to send a bottle of wine to her table. When she got it, she exclaimed “Who sent this?”. I turned around and greeted her. I could see my overture was welcome and she and I planned an evening alone. When we got together we talked about what happened and why we did not speak for two years. It was simply a misunderstanding. It never should have occurred. Thank goodness we reconnected, as we always should have been friends. In the last few years I did not see her much, but she and I had a good connection inside of us.
If there is someone in your life who used to touch your heart, don’t wait. Don’t feud. People come from different places and have different experiences and outlooks. The problem may have nothing to do with you. Forgive them and reconnect, before it is too late.
Wendy Rulnick
Amen. Too many times ego and a complete misunderstanding go a long way to dividing people. I can't remember who I read this quote from but they said (and I am paraphrasing), take what people say to you and always take them with a positive affirmation. It has worked well for me in life.
Very good message Wendy.
I'm sorry for your loss Wendy. At least you were able to reconnect and rekindle your friendship before she passed. This is excellent advice for the New Year, friends should be cherished always!
Wendy, I read a great post yesterday that Robert Hammerstein posted...there were 45 life lessons there the first four seem to work very well in this discussion.
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
There are some great words of wisdom here ...So Sorry for your loss! hold her dear in your heart and she'll be there when you need her.
Wendy, I'm glad you were able to re-establish your friendship. It does a heart good to forgive loved ones.
This sure makes you think! Good Post for New Year's Day!
Wendy, I am sorry about you losing your friend but I'm glad you re-established your friendship before she died. Growing up my Mother always taught me not to go to bed angry either. We just never know what tomorrow brings; do we?
Wendy,
I'm so glad you got a chance to reconcile.
In the past two years I've lost a brother and my best friend. I thank God I got to talk to them both.When one of my other brothers called about Jack, he said he'd be sleeping call tomorrow. On a hunch I called the nurses station, Jack was up and awake, we talked for about 1/2 hour it was the last conversation he ever had. Jack died 23 days later. I hadn't talked to my friend Bob for a couple of weeks when he called, we made plans. Bob's wife called later he died 2 hours after we said good by.
"If there is someone in your life who used to touch your heart, don't wait. Don't feud. People come from different places and have different experiences and outlooks. The problem may have nothing to do with you. Forgive them and reconnect, before it is too late." Is excellent advice! I cherish those phone calls.
Please except my condolences. The good memories will prevail given time.
Bill
Jason - That is a great idea for using positive affirmations... I always try to think the person may be having other issues in their life affecting their behavior if there is a problem.
Jared and Amanda - Thank you.
Laura - Thank you, too.
Steve - 1. True 2. Good idea 3. Great idea 4. True indeed
Wanda - It is the best.
Cheryl - Thank you.
Marchel - Wise words from your mother.
Bill - I am so sorry for the loss of your Brother and your friend. Those are touching stories, as well. Thank you for sharing.
Wendy I am so sorry to hear about your friend. But happy to hear you reconciled before it was too late. Life is way to short to hold grudges. We ALL need to learn to accept people for who they are. Thank you for this reminder.
Wendy, It's so important to mend those hurt relationships, as life is so short. So lucky for you that you were able to make amends. Sometimes we look back and those little spats seem so senseless. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Bryant - I think it is something we need to remind ourselves every once in a while!
Sandy - Thank you.
Great advice, Wendy! Life is too short! Thanks for the reminder! I'm glad you had that experience with your friend!